Loving Ourselves More: A How-To

Posted by: on Feb 5, 2014 | No Comments

Okay.  Let’s put aside our fears of being cheesy and talk about something important.  Loving ourselves.  I think this is central to living a happy, meaningful, connected life.  It’s something with which many of us struggle.  But why is it so important? And how do we do it?


I tend to think that our purpose in life is to be as fully ourselves as possible.  In other words, to grow as much as we can into the best person we can be.  Love promotes growth and opening.  Fear constricts and limits growth.  If A+B=C, then love is central to our life’s purpose.

So how do we love more?  What does it look like?

Here’s a short list of possibilities:

Feed yourself good food.

Spend time with people who love and respect you.

Breathe.  Breathe into your heart.

Forgive yourself for mistakes–cut yourself some slack.

Be honest about your imperfections and challenges with people who accept, normalize, and share their own.

Make your imperfections Not Such A Big Deal.

Thank yourself for trying.

Value comfort and security…and push your edge for learning and growth.

Get a massage.

Dare to think “I’m okay as I am.”