Just met with a client who’s felt all too well the ways that comparison–as Mark Twain so aptly said and I so aptly butchered in the title of this post–is the thief of joy. Her kid is sick and everyone around her seems so shiny and happy and perfect. They seem better, somehow, or more … Read moreComparison Is a F*%cker
This is a day we gather to remember that no matter the darkness in the world, we tenaciously hold onto the light. So recently having marked the memory of the victims from the Pulse, today we celebrate PRIDE and love in all its many and beautiful forms. I truly believe there is no bad—just fear … Read moreLove is Love
I work with lots of folks on how to take good care of themselves…how to listen to their own needs and set boundaries that work for them. One challenge that comes up a lot is that, in social situations, conversation can move so quickly that it becomes really hard to be able to: Pause. Sense … Read moreThe “Give-Yourself-A-Pause” Phrase
69% of a couple’s problems or challenges are perpetual. A.k.a., they’re not going to change much over the course of the relationship. This is what couples researcher John Gottman has observed over his 20+ years of studying couple’s behavior. Whatever subject you and your partner have conflict about today, you’re likely to still be having … Read moreThe Good News About Things Not Changing