Hello! It’s been so long since I’ve written. It’s been weighing on me that my last post is over a year old. But, as I’m sure you can relate, we’ve all been through a lot! I’m not going to start off with a long post, though I CAN say I have one coming about Ted … Read moreReturning…to basics.
Hi Friends. How ya doin’? I know it’s hard right now. We have to use all our skills to manage what is new and strange for us. I want you to know that I’m here and I’ll stay available for virtual sessions during this challenging time. All sessions will be virtual until the CDC says … Read moreTherapy WILL Be Televised (well not televised but virtual)
I hope you all have had a heart-warming holiday season and have taken good care of yourselves. The New Year brings a lot of pressure to be BETTER, HEALTHIER, more PRODUCTIVE and CALMER. Good luck to all of us with that. Let’s all just remember that what works is small steps consistently over time. No … Read moreWhat the World Needs Now (Yep, You Got it—Love Sweet Love)
Do you feel and believe that you are good enough? If I had to pick one issue I see the most in my practice, it’s self-criticalness. As opposed to narcissism where a person is defended against seeing any faults in themself, self-criticalness is like fault-finding on steroids. So let’s break it down a little bit. … Read moreWhen You’re Your Own Bully
My friends at Birth Roots, the local birth and parenting resource center, recently posted this quote from Beth Berry on their instagram: The fact that you’re struggling to enjoy motherhood has less to do with you than it does the inadequate support structures in the culture surrounding you. This is an important quote that applies … Read moreBeing Good Enough When Life is Hard
We’ve all heard people talk or write about this subject. The seductiveness of Fakebook. The way we all put our best images forward on social media and end up appearing to have only happy children, loving moments with partners and spouses, neat bedrooms, big smiles You’d think that as a therapist, I’d be very realistic … Read moreThe Myth of the Perfect Life
I often write about myths our culture perpetuates in relationships and this blog’s title sums up one I’ve been thinking about recently: We’ve all heard people say something to the effect of: “You should never try to change someone…you should love them for who they are.” I recognize that my argument is partly a matter … Read moreBulls$#t Alert: “Don’t Ask Them to Change”
This is a guest post from Krishan Smith: senior editor and content specialist at Custody X Change, a custody software solution. Separation Anxiety Separation anxiety affects adults and children alike. The fear of not wanting to leave the family home and finding it hard to adjust to living in two different households is natural and very … Read moreManaging Anxiety When Co-Parenting
How often do you update your operating system? Probably about as often as you have a chance. Fix the bugs and all that… Wouldn’t it be nice if we could get an updated version of the gray matter between your ears? I mean, as it is, it’s pretty fabulous in SO many ways, but the … Read moreBeware Your Brain!
This article was authored by Krishan Smith: senior editor and content specialist at Custody X Change, a custody software solution. Give Trust a Chance An essential component of a healthy co-parent relationship is gaining trust in your co-parent. Keep your co-parent involved in your children’s lives; this will hopefully foster a greater sense of responsibility … Read moreWorking on Your Co-Parenting Relationship