(This post was first published at the Huffington Post) I planned to tell my now-husband that it wasn’t going to work out on our third date. He was very sweet, respectful and handsome but my internal voice suggested we weren’t compatible enough. He was in sales; I was studying to be a therapist. We had … Read moreWhat You’ll Never Fix About Your Marriage (and Why You Don’t Have to)
In the unavoidable struggles and wounding that life presents all of us, it would be nice if there was a simple equation for successful healing. “Do X and you will achieve Y.” I so wish it could be that straightforward and predictable. Because the truth is, healing is a mystery. We are all beautiful … Read moreTwo Essentials for Healing and Happiness
The following is a guest post by Tim Backes who is the senior editor for Custody X Change, a custody calendar software solution. There hasn’t been any reimbursement for the posting of this article–but anything that helps co-parents peacefully negotiate a custody calendar sounds like a good idea to me! 🙂 You and your ex may … Read moreTips for Keeping Your Co-Parenting Relationship Running Smoothly
Here’s an article I wrote for the website: www.loveevolveandthrive.com: You know the story about the man in the flood? He was waiting for God to save him and when a row boat passed by to help him to dry land, he turned it away because he was waiting for God. Then when the water was … Read moreKnow the Truth About Soul-Mates
This is an article I wrote for a series on “How to Heal A Broken Heart.” on the website Love, Evolve, and Thrive. For anyone suffering, this piece was entitled: Watch for Ways Your Mind Re-Writes the Past: The human mind is so creative that we have come to rule the planet so-to-speak. However, there are … Read moreWatch for Ways Your Mind Re-Writes the Past
Check out this article of mine published on the Huffington Post Parent Blog! When the bag of microwave popcorn burned at my daughter’s school and the fire alarms went off her anxiety about fires began. It’s a loud noise and they’d never held a fire drill before, so she didn’t know what was going on … Read moreThe Number 1 Skill to Help Your Anxious Kiddo
I just finished Aziz Ansari’s book Modern Romance and I highly recommend it. Aziz Ansari is a comedian and the main character of his show, Master of None, which is hilarious. He wrote the book to explore why dating in this culture at this time basically sucks. I won’t go into the whole book, but … Read moreToo Much Choice
(Post first published at meetmindful.com) The media is full of images and headlines about how to have great sex: hot bodies and new moves, gymnastic positions and pearly pink sex toys will spice things up and help you either give or get the mind-blowing pleasure you’ve been looking for. One thing often overlooked, however, is whether … Read moreMindful Sex and Meditation
Here’s the scene: A new client enters my office and we say “Hi” and get comfy. I explain a couple of ways we can go about our first meeting: she can ask me some questions or she can tell me a little bit about what’s going on and we can talk about how I might … Read more“I’m Sorry I’m Crying” and Other Things You Don’t Need to Say to Your Therapist