(This post was first published at the Huffington Post) I planned to tell my now-husband that it wasn’t going to work out on our third date. He was very sweet, respectful and handsome but my internal voice suggested we weren’t compatible enough. He was in sales; I was studying to be a therapist. We had … Read moreWhat You’ll Never Fix About Your Marriage (and Why You Don’t Have to)

  In the unavoidable struggles and wounding that life presents all of us, it would be nice if there was a simple equation for successful healing. “Do X and you will achieve Y.” I so wish it could be that straightforward and predictable. Because the truth is, healing is a mystery. We are all beautiful … Read moreTwo Essentials for Healing and Happiness

Just met with a client who’s felt all too well the ways that comparison–as Mark Twain so aptly said and I so aptly butchered in the title of this post–is the thief of joy. Her kid is sick and everyone around her seems so shiny and happy and perfect. They seem better, somehow, or more … Read moreComparison Is a F*%cker

This is a day we gather to remember that no matter the darkness in the world, we tenaciously hold onto the light. So recently having marked the memory of the victims from the Pulse, today we celebrate PRIDE and love in all its many and beautiful forms. I truly believe there is no bad—just fear … Read moreLove is Love

The following is a guest post by Tim Backes who is the senior editor for Custody X Change, a custody calendar software solution. There hasn’t been any reimbursement for the posting of this article–but anything that helps co-parents peacefully negotiate a custody calendar sounds like a good idea to me! 🙂   You and your ex may … Read moreTips for Keeping Your Co-Parenting Relationship Running Smoothly

I work with lots of folks on how to take good care of themselves…how to listen to their own needs and set boundaries that work for them. One challenge that comes up a lot is that, in social situations, conversation can move so quickly that it becomes really hard to be able to: Pause. Sense … Read moreThe “Give-Yourself-A-Pause” Phrase

Here’s an article I wrote for the website: www.loveevolveandthrive.com: You know the story about the man in the flood? He was waiting for God to save him and when a row boat passed by to help him to dry land, he turned it away because he was waiting for God. Then when the water was … Read moreKnow the Truth About Soul-Mates

This is an article I wrote for a series on “How to Heal A Broken Heart.” on the website Love, Evolve, and Thrive. For anyone suffering, this piece was entitled: Watch for Ways Your Mind Re-Writes the Past: The human mind is so creative that we have come to rule the planet so-to-speak. However, there are … Read moreWatch for Ways Your Mind Re-Writes the Past

Check out this article of mine published on the Huffington Post Parent Blog! When the bag of microwave popcorn burned at my daughter’s school and the fire alarms went off her anxiety about fires began. It’s a loud noise and they’d never held a fire drill before, so she didn’t know what was going on … Read moreThe Number 1 Skill to Help Your Anxious Kiddo

69% of a couple’s problems or challenges are perpetual. A.k.a., they’re not going to change much over the course of the relationship. This is what couples researcher John Gottman has observed over his 20+ years of studying couple’s behavior. Whatever subject you and your partner have conflict about today, you’re likely to still be having … Read moreThe Good News About Things Not Changing