The Good News About Things Not Changing

69% of a couple’s problems or challenges are perpetual. A.k.a., they’re not going to change much over the course of the relationship. This is what couples researcher John Gottman has observed over his 20+ years of studying couple’s behavior. Whatever subject you and your partner have conflict about today, you’re likely to still be having … Read moreThe Good News About Things Not Changing

“I’m Sorry I’m Crying” and Other Things You Don’t Need to Say to Your Therapist

Here’s the scene: A new client enters my office and we say “Hi” and get comfy. I explain a couple of ways we can go about our first meeting: she can ask me some questions or she can tell me a little bit about what’s going on and we can talk about how I might … Read more“I’m Sorry I’m Crying” and Other Things You Don’t Need to Say to Your Therapist