I work with lots of folks on how to take good care of themselves…how to listen to their own needs and set boundaries that work for them. One challenge that comes up a lot is that, in social situations, conversation can move so quickly that it becomes really hard to be able to: Pause. Sense … Read moreThe “Give-Yourself-A-Pause” Phrase

Here’s an article I wrote for the website: www.loveevolveandthrive.com: You know the story about the man in the flood? He was waiting for God to save him and when a row boat passed by to help him to dry land, he turned it away because he was waiting for God. Then when the water was … Read moreKnow the Truth About Soul-Mates

This is an article I wrote for a series on “How to Heal A Broken Heart.” on the website Love, Evolve, and Thrive. For anyone suffering, this piece was entitled: Watch for Ways Your Mind Re-Writes the Past: The human mind is so creative that we have come to rule the planet so-to-speak. However, there are … Read moreWatch for Ways Your Mind Re-Writes the Past

Check out this article of mine published on the Huffington Post Parent Blog! When the bag of microwave popcorn burned at my daughter’s school and the fire alarms went off her anxiety about fires began. It’s a loud noise and they’d never held a fire drill before, so she didn’t know what was going on … Read moreThe Number 1 Skill to Help Your Anxious Kiddo

69% of a couple’s problems or challenges are perpetual. A.k.a., they’re not going to change much over the course of the relationship. This is what couples researcher John Gottman has observed over his 20+ years of studying couple’s behavior. Whatever subject you and your partner have conflict about today, you’re likely to still be having … Read moreThe Good News About Things Not Changing

I just finished Aziz Ansari’s book Modern Romance and I highly recommend it. Aziz Ansari is a comedian and the main character of his show, Master of None, which is hilarious. He wrote the book to explore why dating in this culture at this time basically sucks. I won’t go into the whole book, but … Read moreToo Much Choice

(Post first published at meetmindful.com) The media is full of images and headlines about how to have great sex: hot bodies and new moves, gymnastic positions and pearly pink sex toys will spice things up and help you either give or get the mind-blowing pleasure you’ve been looking for. One thing often overlooked, however, is whether … Read moreMindful Sex and Meditation

Here’s the scene: A new client enters my office and we say “Hi” and get comfy. I explain a couple of ways we can go about our first meeting: she can ask me some questions or she can tell me a little bit about what’s going on and we can talk about how I might … Read more“I’m Sorry I’m Crying” and Other Things You Don’t Need to Say to Your Therapist